I have a friend who shares a unique relationship with her husband. He lives in another town -- about three hours away (he moved there for a job opportunity) and they only see each other on weekends and special occasions. They vacation together, they chat online during the week, they go to one another's company Christmas party. They're still legally married, with all of its benefits and tax advantages, yet sometimes they'll go a month or so without seeing one another. It seems to be working quite nicely for them. They're faithful to one another and have no plans to change their current situation.
She says that the sex is better than it ever was when they were living together -- kind of like early dating sex, where you can't wait to get one another's clothes off and then can't get enough of each other. She says the relationship is like getting the prize in the box of cereal without having to dig through the whole box to find it... she shares all of the good stuff with him and then they each go to their own homes and live the way they want to. Her home is decorated in French Country, his contemporary; she's a neat freak, he's a slob; she's a vegetarian, he's a steak and 'taters kinda guy; she loves opera, he loves Jazz; he lets the dogs sleep on the bed, she'd never hear of such a thing. All of the little annoyances of living under the same roof have been removed and all that's left is the good stuff. It's probably not for everyone, but it has me thinking... married on weekends... what a concept!
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Joe and I did this for the first 4 mos we were married. I had to finish out my job in DC, he was in grad school at UVa. We didn't go more than 2 weeks w/out seeing each other. At the time, it killed me. Having DH return to school when we got back from our honeymoon was hard.
Now, I might like a 4 mos break! LOL.
Thanks for sharing.
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